Courage is a valuable attitude in this competitive world. It’s the character that enables people to pursue crazy dreams or do what society thinks is impossible. This is why for so many parents, teaching kids the can-do attitude is important. If you’re on a “courage training” with your children, you may want to consider these tactics as well:
Treat them as brave kids.
Before your kids start believing that they can do things, you have to believe hat first. And believing isn’t just something that’s happening in your head, it shows in your actions. It’s reflected in how you treat your kids, in how you give them responsibilities, and in how you trust that they’re going to give their best. Your perception about them matters because it’s what dictates their perception about themselves.
Affirm them always of how brave they are, even when they’re not fully there yet. When you believe in them, they’ll strive to live up to those expectations.
Encourage them to try something new.
It’s impossible to exercise courage when you’re in your comfort zone, so let them break out of those safety nets. Encourage them to try something new. For instance, learning how to bike. There’s a lot of risks here and it’s precisely those challenges that offer opportunities to be in “courage mode.”
While the sink-and-swim approach may work in letting them learn something new, the general rule here is to support your child. Hold the back of their bike seats as they struggle to find their balance and groove. Or, as MADSEN Cycles suggests, get them into a family bicycle so they’ll be familiar with the entire thing without overwhelming them.
Let them fail.
It’s heartbreaking to see children fail or get rejected. But such challenges in life are necessary, not to mention, inevitable. The most courageous people are those who’ve had the most failures in life. Why? Because they took so many risks. And the failures they’ve experienced along with taking risks all the more push them to try, try, and try again. That’s the attitude you want to build for your kid. That whatever failures they face, they will press on. That’s the true mark of bravery.
Don’t keep them from things you think are going to fail. It’s scary, for sure, but it’s a necessary step towards building courage.
Courageous kids aren’t made overnight. They’re in a life-long training, and that training should start from you.